PLEASE STOP. You guys, if she was married to a man and is now dating a woman, then that means she’s BISEXUAL. You don’t go from one day being straight to being gay the next.
Stop erasing bisexuality and other sexualities that are more plausible than, “NOW SHE’S A LESBIAN.”
but you do realize that sexuality is fluid right? it’s absolutely possible to be straight one day and gay the next. or maybe she was gay all along and didn’t really feel for her husband. besides, it says “realized she’s a lesbian,” not “became a lesbian.”
and maybe she is bisexual. but she probably wouldn’t have divorced her husband if she was still capable of being attracted to him.
the article isn’t very clear as it doesn’t include direct quotes, but it does say, “Lauren says she began to feel like a fraud…married to a man but clearly gay.”
i’m not saying that there isn’t a lot of bi erasure out there, but this is not an example of such. please let her identify as she pleases.
I’m not entirely sure about this, but I feel as though many women are taught that it’s their job to please men, even when they don’t feel any particular attraction to them. Some women may not know that their lack of attraction to their male partners over time may not demonstrate a lack of attraction to males in general when they could secretly be harboring an attraction to females that may seem less “wholesome” according to common prejudice…maybe there is such as thing as lesbians not knowing they are lesbians because of the common “please men” rhetoric that surround women. Or maybe the writer was bisexual, which, obviously, could be a clear choice if she went from a relationship with a male to a relationship to a female. It could be a lot of things. I think, in the end, it’s up to the person in question to know. There are a lot of ways to interpret the situation, but we’re not the authorities on anything. The truth lies in the woman in question, and it’s up to her for interpretation.